Newborn Sleeping Tips

I hope the following tips will help you and your little one get through the first few weeks. As a Mom myself, I know that every little tip helps. I just want to point out that the following tips in my opinion have helped my children and the babies that I deal with weekly at the hospital during their post-partum stay. If you disagree with my tips, take them for what their worth and move on. Please do not leave nasty comments on my page. These tips have helped several parents get through their first couple of days at home. Here we go...!

1) Differentiate- Day from night. Many parents fear that their newborn does not like the light. However, getting them use to the bright lights as soon as possible is ideal, along with noise. Keeping the blinds open even during nap time will help your newborn differentiate night from day. Keep the room very dark leaving on just a night light at night time. Keep it dark even for midnight feedings as turning on the bright light can confuse them and think it's time to get up.

2) Mimic The Womb- Babies love to be swaddled, continue swaddling your baby even after you take your newborn home. The tighter the better, investing in a velcro swaddling blanket may be worth the hassle of fighting a newborn while trying to swaddle. White noise is also soothing, playing soft music in the background will allow the newborn to feel as if she is still hearing your tummy rumble, you talk, and your heartbeat as well.

3) Burp often- Formula babies especially need to be burped often. Sometimes newborns will not feed as well or will regurgitate their feeding because they have not expelled the excess gas in their system. Breast fed babies typically do not burp as much because it is easily digested. However, burping them between breasts and after a session will help with this as well.

4) Elevate the head- Elevating the head of the bed can help with preventing acid reflux, there are safe ways to do so. Make sure you properly research.

5) Recheck the diaper- This may seem like a no brainer, but I can't even tell you how many times parents have said they are not wet or dirty and come to find out that is the cause of their newborns complaints. Alot of parents will go by the stripe to determine if the diaper is wet/dirty. Make sure you are actually checking to ensure it is dry.

6) Skin to Skin in the first few days- Skin to Skin contact is a great way to promote bonding, stimulate let down, and regulate his/her bonding temperature. Dad can do this as well, as long as your newborn is skin to skin with you he/she is as warm as they can be. This will establish a great relationship between the two of you or three of you if Dad pitches in.

7) Remain calm- Your newborn can sense your frustration. If you are frustrated so is your LO, remain calm and allow him/her to tell you what she wants. Some babies do liked to be rocked, some do not, some will self soothe, some want extra "sucking" time. Let your baby tell you what she/he wants. As parents, we have it fixed in our mind how we are going to calm our child. Many times our baby is responding telling us that he/she does not like what were doing. It doesn't mean your a bad parent, your child is just trying to communicate with you at such a young age. For instance, looking for hunger cues can determine a simply overly tired baby from a hungry baby. It will take time to determine what their needs are.

8) Create a bed time routine the day you come home- I was never super strict with the time we started, but the manner in which our bedtime routine went was the same every night. Start talking in a soothing voice, turn the lights down, give him/her a bath (I recommend Johnson&Johnson's lavender bedtime products, kisses, last feed, diaper change, swaddle, music, and lights out.

9) Overstimulation does exist- Your baby may be telling you that they are on sensory overload. This is possible especially in the first few days home. With several visitors, new environment, etc. Limit the amount of visitors in the first few days home, allow them to come only when baby is well rested and earlier in the day.

10) Mylicon Drops- are awesome to use when your baby is having gas pain and not able to find relief. You may hear them toot, or you may just notice them drawing their legs up. Also laying them down on their back and doing bicycle legs with them while pushing on the soles of their feet may help them expel that awful gas.

11) Colic Calm- Is a great infant medication on the market that helps colic babies, newborns with hiccups, upset stomach, and relieves acid reflux pain. As always talk it over with your pediatrician.

12) Call your Local Hospital- Like I said before, I work on a post-partum unit and were open 24hours/7 days a weeks. So, when your up at 2am and your at your wits end with what to do. Call a local hospital and speak with a nurse. You would be surprised with the helpful hints that they may be willing to give you.

13) Warm that blanket- Who doesn't like a warm blanket? Throw their swaddling blanket in the dryer with a dryer sheet. Not only will it smell fresh but it will be warm too. Just make sure it's not too hot before you wrap your little one. But this will help them sleep peaceful too.

14) Find where you are going to lay and try to stick with it- For instance, when we came home from the hospital we used a bassinet. I loved it, it was easy to get her for feedings and she was close to use in case something wasn't right. Some parents love co-sleepers, bassinets, cribs, pack-n-plays, or the like. No matter where you put them, your newborn will grow accustomed to their new bed. Just because one night they may not fall asleep as easy doesn't mean you need to rush out and change their sleeping arrangements. Stick with the plan and your newborn will fall asleep.

15) The 5 S's- Side, swaddle, suck, sway, and sushing. Nine times out of ten when I am at the hospital trying to help new Mom's get their newborns to fall asleep, I will do these five things and normally as long as baby does not need to eat, it works. Swaddle your little one first, you can use a pacifier (if that is your preference) or let them "comfort nurse" to fall asleep. You can also try swaying them back in forth, rocking in a rocking chair, swinging in their swing...you get the idea. You can also try a white noise machine or sushing in their ear or singing a song.

Do you have any tips/tricks I didn't cover? Post them. I would love to read them and share with all of you! 

The Truth About Breast feeding

Breast feeding can be a very stressful process for many new Mom's. In fact, it's almost rare to find that a Mom is able to latch her newborn without any questions/concerns. Almost every Mom NEEDS assistance if not because they have questions but because they NEED to feel reassured. But, don't worry you are not in this alone.





Common Breast feeding Myths & Tips 

1) "My baby is feeding very frequently, I must not have enough milk to satisfy him/her!" Breast feeding is new to you and your newborn. It takes time to regulate his/her schedule and become accustomed to his/her feeding needs. Breast milk is digested easier and faster then formula by newborns leading them to be hungry faster. Most breast fed newborns feed 8-12 times a day, which divided by 24 hours is every 2 hours. Growth spurts also may cause your newborn to feed more often. However, there are tips you can follow to have your newborn achieve a more satisfying feeding at each session.

*Tip-  Formula fed babies cry too, however, when a newborn is formula fed we are able to determine how much he ate and can quickly wean out that he/she is or isn't hungry. When you are breast feeding your newborn, look for hunger cues before putting him/her to the breast. Crying is actually a LATE sign of hunger by looking for the cues first you should have a calmer baby that is more willing to feed. If your newborn's face is mostly relaxed, hands are open, and his/her legs are relaxed. Your newborn is probably not hungry, especially if you just fed. Try swaddling, swaying, and putting calming music on to ease your fussy baby.


2) "My breast aren't leaking between feedings" or "I can't express colostrum." These are both common concerns. As your baby grows, your milk supply will regulate. Your newborn is able to get more milk out of your breast than a pump or your manual expression. The more your newborn feeds, the more you will produce. The less your newborn feeds, the less you will produce. Breast feeding is definitely a supply and demand process.

*Tip- Try offering both breast at each feeding. When your newborn stops sucking frequently on one, burp him/her, and switch to the other side. This will stimulate both breasts and prevent one filling constantly and not the other.

3) "Something must be wrong with my breast, my baby only likes one side"- This is a very common finding among breast feeding women.

*Tip- Lactation nurses believe that your newborn may of lied one way inutero and thus prefers and feels more comfortable laying on that particular side. Always try the breast that your newborn dislikes first when he/she is more alert and willing to feed.

4) "My nipples are inverted or flat and there is nothing for him/her to attach to"- This is also very common, your newborn will grow accustomed to your breast shape and nipple size with time. However, during the first few days there are way to get your newborn to latch.

*Tip- Nipple shields are awesome for this problem. You will more then likely not have to use these for very long. However, getting a very fussy baby to latch can be a difficult task and using a nipple shield can help tremendously. Nipple shields come in a variety of sizes and finding the size that best suits your needs will help. The hospital that you deliver may have these on hand, ask for one if you feel you may need extra help with getting your newborn to latch. If you can consult with a lactation expert to determine if a shield is necessary.

5) "My friend's baby is formula fed and seems to be growing right on track"

Tips- Every baby grows at his/her own rate. Do not compare your child to someone else. As long as your newborn is growing in the safe percentile for height and weight, let your newborn feed how frequently or infrequently he/she chooses.

6) "My baby isn't interested"

Tips-Attempt to feed at the first sign of hunger. You newborn will be more alert and less fussy. Your baby will let you know when he/she is hungry. Newborns go through sleep cycles and may not be interested at first. Allow for skin to skin contact as your newborn is waking up and getting ready to feed. As you see him/her head start to bob or hand go towards his/her mouth attempt to place your newborn to your breast.

Common Causes Of Low Milk Supply-

1) Limiting the amount of time your newborn feeds at the breast. If your newborn stops feeding before he/she is finished at the breast the newborn will only receive the "fore" milk and not the "hind" milk which has higher fat content.

2) Time away from baby- As I said earlier, breast feeding is supply and demand. If your newborn is not around to feed (ex: in the NICU, your out of town, etc) you may notice a drop in your supply. Pumping often as if your newborn is their to feed will help stimulate your supply.

3) Stress can decrease your milk supply. If you are under a great deal of your stress try to find a way to release it.

4) Calories- not eating enough calories or drinking enough water can decrease your milk supply.

5) Painful Nipples- Pain can decrease your supply and prevent let down. Pay close attention to the way your newborn is positioned at the breast. He/she should not be hurting you while feeding. Make sure your newborns lips are flanged open and your newborn is getting more of the areola in his/her mouth. Use nipple cream after each feeding or express some of your colostrum on your nipple after each feeding.

6) Breast Augmentations- I have seen several Mom's able to breast feed fine, however, this can cause a low milk supply.

7) Birth Control/ IUD- Try to stay away from contraceptives while feeding. Not only may that not be safe during breast feeding but can also contribute to a low supply.

Ways to Increase Your Milk Supply-

1) Stimulate both breast at each feeding

2) Pump if you newborn is not around.

3) Drink plenty of fluids.

4) Let your newborn feed until he/she has fallen off the breast.

5) Avoid formula/pacifiers if able. You want your newborn to practice his/her sucking reflexes at the breast. Not waste his/her time sucking on a pacifier and then be too exhausted to attempt to nurse. If your milk supply is adequate this is different story. If your trying to increase it you need your newborn to stimulate your breast.


6) Oatmeal can increase your milk supply.

7) Take a nursing vacation. Put your baby in a bassinet next to your bed and do nothing but nurse for 2 days.

8) Consider a galactagogue to help increase your milk supply (herb, prescription medication).

9) Take a warm shower

10) Try Mother's Milk Tea

11) Fenugreek supplements (can be purchased at GNC)

When all else fails contact Le Leche Leaugue, a local IBCLC consultant, or a hospital in your area for tips & tricks for breast feeding.

70 Tips For Surviving The First Few Weeks Of Motherhood-Updated!

Before I had my daughter I thought I was prepared for "Motherhood," I had washed all of her tiny clothes, decorated the nursery, and packed her diaper bag. However, I didn't read any tips for new moms because I was under the impression it was going to be a walk in the park. What I didn't realize it was a RUN in the park and I was NOT equipped with directions. Here is 70 Tips that I learned after bringing my little one home from the hospital. Again, these are my opinions and as always check with your Practiconer if you have any issues/concerns. These tips have helped several Mom's and continue to everyday. Please feel free to comment but let's keep the comments supportive! :) Thanks!



 

1. Share your struggles- From the outside looking in it seems that most Mom's have it totally together. But, the opposite is quite true. Sharing your struggles will allow other Mom's to open up and you will quickly realize you are not alone.

2. Shower Daily- Mom's often put this off because their too "busy," showering will make you feel not only fresh but ready to face the day, put some light make up on too and you won't feel "icky" sitting around the house with a newborn. You will be surprised at the energy boost you receive.

3. Differentiate day from night. Many new parents are concerned the light is too bright for their
newborns eyes. However, keeping it well lit while your precious little one is sleeping during the day and dark at night will help your newborn achieve a schedule.

4. Post-partum blues are real. If you are feeling down in the dumps or struggling to become your self again after delivery, discuss your concerns with your MD. These are real emotions and affect many Mom's, getting help sooner rather then later will make your first few months as a Mom much easier.

5. Let Dad help or in some cases make Dad help Dad may just be nervous and unsure of where to start. Having someone assist you with diaper changes, late night feeds, and the like will help you considerably. Just because you are Mom does not mean Dad can't pitch in. Remember, it takes two to tango and a village to raise a child. Leave the room when Dad starts a task for the first time so he doesn't feel judged.

6. Motherhood is hard work, you are going to feel like you are not good enough. This is a normal feeling. Since your child is not able to reassure you of your ability to parent, it is normal to feel like you are not doing a great job by hearing how others suggest you parent.

7. It's Ok to ask for space. Your first couple of weeks will be overwhelming, emotional, and confusing. If your family is one to "hover" ask them to politely leave or come back when you are well rested and ready for company. This will only stress you and stress the baby. Intervene early and ask them to call before coming over. One of the best things my husband and I did was not allow visitors the first day. We were exhausted, needed help with breast feeding, and just wanted to bond. We love our family to pieces, but we waited 9 months for this!

8. Make meals before hand or have someone make a few meals before hand for you that you can freeze. There are several useful websites that explain how to properly freeze items and foods that taste better reheated.

9. If you need to cry, cry! Nothing is better then sitting in the shower, let the water hit your back, and cry.

10. Take pictures even if you look like a hot mess. You will hate them right away, but when you look back in a year. You will cherish these. Your child will want to see you in the pictures and not just them selves.

11. Don't forget to swaddle your baby. Baby's like feeling secure, they are use to being in your uterus with hardly any room to move. Make sure your post-partum nurse shows you how to swaddle or purchase a swaddler from the store. When nothing seems to make your newborn happy, swaddle them.

12. Join a Mom's group. Babycenter.com has a great group. In fact, you can join your birth month. For example, my daughter was born November 2010. So, I am a part of the November 2010 Birth club. There are several women who post information regarding children the exact same age as yours!

13. Don't forget to still date your husband. Having a newborn, roaming the house in sweats, hair tied, with no make up on will not really give you the desire to want to put on your Jessica Simpson heals and hit the club. But, do something simple. Having even an hour to yourselves will take your marriage and your sanity to a whole new level. Your husband needs to see you not only as a Mom but his wife as well.

14. Go outside. Many new Mom's are afraid to leave the house because they are afraid their newborn will get sick. This doesn't mean you need to go out shopping but go for a nice walk. Their are many stroller covers out on the market that you are able to use with your stroller. You will feel relaxed and your newborn will love the movement. Or go for a short drive instead, if you have a sun roof open it. You won't have to worry about your newborn being touched and you will feel refreshed getting outdoors. The best part is, you can do this in your PJs.

15. Invest in a quality baby monitor preferably video if you are able. We bought a cheap monitor when my daughter was little. We always heard the neighbors kids if we crossed frequencies, weren't able to have multiple monitors to place around the house, and couldn't see her to make sure her little cry was just her having a baby dream. Seeing her has been a life saver. Especially into the toddler years, now when we hear her awake in her room before she falls asleep we can look to make sure she is still in bed and not playing.

16. Buy a swing that plugs into the wall. We used our swing often and we were constantly running to the store for batteries.

17. Follow your instincts. You know your baby best. Many will tell you what they think is wrong with your newborn.

18. Nap when baby naps. You will want to clean up, catch up on your to-do list, or get dressed. Try to do these tasks as baby is awake.

19. Be OK with change. You may of said before you had your newborn that you would NEVER do this or that but if it works for your newborn, try it.

20. If breast feeding, ask to see the lactation consultant at the hospital or look up a local lactation consultant. Le Leche League or IBCLC consultants are a good place to start in your area. The will be able to watch you nurse your newborn and assure you that you are doing everything accurately.

21. Order out, your not a bad Mom if you not nursing baby, wearing make up, cooking, and keeping the house clean. It's NOT going to happen. Order out once or twice a week and use the spare time to make precious moments with your little one.

22. Your I-phone notepad or a notes application is your best friend. When baby reaches a milestone jot it down. It's OK if you don't have time to put it in the baby book right this second. Jot it down that way you will remember these moments when you do have time.

23. If you post your newborn's pictures to Facebook, place a date at the bottom that it was taken. This is helped me so much keeping up with images and my daughter's baby book.

24. Try a warm compress- if you are nursing, applying a warm compress will help open your milk ducts and promote let down.

25. Don't obsess about being tired. You are going to be tired so empower your self with knowledge to get baby on a schedule as fast as you can.

26. Mimic the womb- as I said earlier swaddle, white noise, and swaying.

27. Be Flexbile! You are no longer going to be able to leave the house for hours on end running errands. Pick a few places you need go and be prepared to abandon your plans at any time.

28. Pack the extra in the car- you don't have you tote around 15 outfits, 20 diapers, and a bizillon wipes. Pack an emergency kit in the car, in case you run out and forget the diaper bag or the weather changes your ready!

29. Take an infant care class- you may think that you do not need to take one. But, even the most intelligent people require help when it comes to baby basics. Plus, your husband will learn a lot as well!

30. Walk away- If you have done everything your baby is clean, fed, changed, swaddled, and still crying. Put him/her in a safe place and walk away. Take a 5 minute breather and let him/her cry it out. Keep your sanity and when you have gathered your emotions go back and pick him/her up. Your baby can sense your frustration.

31. Don't rush these moments- Even though it may seem you are waking up often or never sleeping for that matter these moments will FLY by. Try to tell your self to enjoy them, stop, and smile. Your little one is growing every day and one day your crazy toddler will not want to be held, swaddled, burped, or cuddled with.

32. Alcohol is out- Newborn's cords are no longer cleansed with alcohol prep pads, instead keeping them as dry as possible is best practice until they fall off.

33. It normally doesn't happen naturally- Breast feeding is hard work and typically does not happen naturally and requires much support. Many mom's have different shaped breast and nipples. There are many tools and techniques out there to get your newborn to latch. Do not be upset if you newborn does not latch right away.

34. Burp often- typically formula fed babies are the ones that will burp more often. However, plenty of breast fed babies burp too. Newborns digest breastmilk easier and are less likely to do so. But, still make sure your are burping your baby often. If you are formula feeding burp your baby every 15ml or so. This will allow them to digest it and "clear" some room for more.

35. Back to sleep- remember newborns are always to be laid on their back while sleeping to prevent SIDS.

36. An extra layer- always dress your newborn in one extra layer then you have on. If you are comfortable in shorts and a t-shirt perhaps your newborn may need light pants and a long sleeve.

37. Skin to skin contact in the first few days promotes bonding- as much skin to skin contact as you can get in especially if your breast feeding will promote bonding between you and your little one and helps regulate their temperature too.

38. Keep Snacks, Magazines, and perhaps a TV close by- nursing is a FULL time job. When you breast feed your baby it will feel like it is a never ending task. For example if you start feeding at 12pm and feed until 1pm, your baby will more then likely be ready to feed again by 2pm or 3pm. Because baby goes from the time the feeding was started not the end time of the feeding. Keeping things within reach before your feeding session is started will make breast feeding much easier.

39. Do something for yourself. Becoming a Mom is an awesome feeling and I wouldn't trade it for the world. However, it became my only idenity. Remember to find time for something you enjoy. Whether it's a soak in the tub, a favorite magazine, or simply painting your nails. Do it. Like I said earlier, when you don't feel confident about yourself you will not feel "rested."

40. Accept help- It is OK for your family to assist you. It doesn't mean you are doing a bad job. It means they love you and want to share in the joy and excitement.


41. Stock up on diapers while your pregnant- I did this with my daughter, we bought a pack every time we went to the store. Before baby is here you have more time to clip coupons, find deals, etc. I ended up picking up most packs for less than five dollars.

42. Walk Away- If baby will not stop crying, do not be afraid to put baby in a safe place and walk away for a minute. Gather your emotions and come back. If you need further help, step away and call. You can always call the hospital you delivered at for support as well.

43. Teach your baby to self soothe. Lay them down for a nap when they are awake but sleepy, give them the item that comforts them. We call them "loveys" in our house. My daughter never really took to one item. It's OK if it's different items that soothes them. (This is recommended only once baby understands that you will return- typically age 6 months and up)

44. Learn how to pop open the travel stroller without DH! This one makes me laugh, every time we went out at first DH was always around. But, one day when my DD was around 3 months we were trying to run into the store to buy him a present. I must of looked so silly trying to pop the stroller open, I just thew it back in the car and went back home. :) BTW, I was NOT smiling.

45. THIS IS A GREAT TIP, plug the bath toys with a hot glue gun. The water will seep inside these toys and grow mold. My dog got ahold of one of my daughters rubber duckies and bit the face off, revealing a moldy ducky. Nasty!

46. Baby girls- may still have your hormones inside of her. Therefore, vaginal discharge is normal along with a swollen private area and or vaginal tag. These things will go away as your hormones leave her body.

47. If you are going to breast feed read up before delivery on pumping- It is not recommended to start pumping until your milk is established OR you have been told by an IBCLC (Lactation Consultant) that you need to pump (ex: if baby is not getting a nutritive latch). Pumping too soon can cause supply and demand issues and can cause over production. Ask your Lactation consultant for information regarding pumping and going back to work. They will have ALOT of useful information for you.

48. Side Note- Alot of insurance companies are covering breast pumps. However, each insurance carrier is different and this is a newer thing that insurance companies are offering. Check with them to determine if a pump is available free of charge to you.

49. Invest in a GREAT thermometer- My husband and I are both RN's, you would of thought we would of invested in one with our daughter early on. However, we always thought of other things to spend money on. I recently invested in a Brauhn ear thermometer and we love it. It's fast, my daughter doesn't mind it and it's accurate. There are plenty of great ones out there, just look around. Also, if you have a flex spending account, it may be covered under that.

50. If you ever have trouble with leaking diapers they make overnight diapers. We use to have issues with my daughter leaking through her diapers at night. It was like she either didn't pee at all or she flooded her diaper. It didn't matter what she drank before bed. The overnight diapers saved our sheets and minds!

51. Buy cute sheets and breathable bumpers! Save the money on a crib bumper. We bought a gorgeous crib bumper for my daughter. Her great grandmother assembled it so now we can't get rid of it. It just sits in a box in the garage taking up space. Buy cute sheets and a inexpensive breathable bumper, you can see baby at a glance, baby can breathe through the bumper, its lightweight, and must importantly MACHINE washable. Remember how it goes on and off because it is a little frustrating. I'm not much for figuring stuff out so either ask your DH or watch Youtube.

52. If you are bottle feeding, put the amount of water needed in the bottle and take the formula with you and add it to it. Don't worry about having to keep the bottles at the right temperature.

53. Monthly pictures are a must. Etsy has cute little stick on's to add to plain onesies to take as baby grows. Take a picture every month and display them at your newborn's first birthday. You will LOVE looking back at these and will be amazed at how fast they grow.

54. Don't beat yourself up if breast feeding is not for you. For example, the other day at work I was helping a BTDT Mom who successfully fed her two year old girl when she was a newborn. However, she was 3 days PP and was having difficulty breast feeding her almost 11 pound baby. She had issues with depression and just didn't feel up to breast feeding. Your baby can sense your feelings and emotions. I am strongly for breast feeding and I feel with dedication and commitment almost every Mom can do it. However, if it's taking too much out of you and too much to stick with it, you are NOT a bad Mom if you end up giving formula.

55. If you can't afford it, it can wait! Newborns do not need much the first couple of months. If you can afford a crib, don't worry about it. Diaper genie? Use a trash can. Activity gyms/ mats, blankets work great along with a few toys. Baby's for the most part are minimalist. WE are the ones that believe baby's need more then they really do. High chair? No worries, baby won't be feeding for at least 6 months and bumpos are great alternatives. You aren't going to remember the things your baby had/didn't have you are going to remember if you were there for those moments. I understand if you have to work, you have to. But, if you have the option to spend a little more time at home, try. I understand it's not for everybody. But, I can promise you, you will be grateful you were there. I had to work a lot with my first and I did not get to see all of her "firsts" and it tore me apart. Again, like I said you have to do what's best for your family but if it is an option. Time is priceless.

56. Sleep sacks, sleep sacks, sleep sacks! My daughter didn't care to be swaddled (even as a toddler she hates to be confined, imagine that :)) But, sleep sacks worked great, they were easy to access her if I needed to with just a zipper, she was warm, and they are so cute and comfortable!

57.Don't compare your baby! It's human nature to wonder how a  baby close to your newborns age is comparing. Don't do this, every baby is an individual. If your baby is doing exactly what the other baby is doing, it doesn't mean that your baby is behind. In fact, you may notice the very next day your baby begins to do what you were just talking about.

58. Read to your baby early on!

59. Establish a bed time routine. SAME.THING.EVERY.NIGHT. my daughter is two and we still do the exact same routine (bath, brush teeth, pjs, we read a book, sing the itsy bitsy spider, say prayers, hugs, kisses, knuckles, lights off, and we blow kisses). Baby's like routines, they know what to expect and will expect you to do it. Start your routine at least 30 minutes to an hour before bedtime. A lot of times this is when your baby is the most calmest so enjoy the time with them. Plus, the bath will help relax them. If they do not need a bath, rub them down with bed time lotion and sing or talk to them calmly. Turn down the lights and only have a lamp or dim lighting. This will help baby establish bedtime for daytime.

60. Sneezing is normal after delivery, especially for C-Section babies. Baby has a lot of secretions after delivery and he/she is only trying to get them out. If you are ever concerned though, notify the nurse at the hospital or pediatrician if you're already discharged.

61. It takes a VILLAGE to raise a child, no joke. Find your support, even if it means finding NEW friends.

62. If your baby is happy and your happy, ignore the rest. You must be doing something right!

63. Don't forget about your significant other, that's how baby is here anyway right? I had SUCH a hard time leaving my DD with friends/family etc. for a night out. I felt selfish and that I was doing something that "Mom's" weren't suppose to be doing. I feel for a brief moment in time, my spouse and I lost each other and just became "parents." Don't forget about your husband, boyfriend, fiance, etc. They are important too and even when you are so tired that you can't keep your eyes open. A moment away will help renew your spirits, energy, and realize that your not in this alone. Lord, I am preaching to the choir on that one!

64. When all else fails, put down the books, and listen to your child. Learn his/her cries.

65. Get a breathe of fresh air, go for a walk, even if it's just down the street and back.

66. Reward yourself. Do something to make you feel good about yourself. Not showering for 3-4 days, unpedicured toe-nails, and no make-up can make any Mom feel down. Make a commitment a few times a week to do something to make your self feel good again.

67. Dance with your newborn, I use to love putting my little one in the wearable sling I had for her and dancing around the house to music (gently of course).

68. NEVER run yourself down as a Mom. When you run yourself down publicly, you will begin to really believe that is true. Do not allow those words to come into existence even if you "think" they are true. Talk with someone about your feelings instead of bashing your motherhood capabilities.

69. Baby Slings- work great for being able to multi-task once your body has recovered from labor. If your baby (like mine) loves to be held carrying your baby in a sling helps you become hands free in order to get things done around the house.

70. Hands Free Bra- Several companies make a hands free nursing bra to use while pumping so you do not have to hold the pump to your breast. Works great to get things done, I even used it at work to chart on my patients while pumping during my break. It can make let down harder though if your not relaxed, so try to stick to things that are relaxing if you are going to go for the hands free method.

71. Never run yourself down as Mom- What comes out of your mouth you will start to believe.

72. Reward Yourself- especially on their first Birthday (YOU made it a whole year, yeah!)

73. Listen- When all else fails and you can't stop your little one from crying, put down the books, get off the phone with your friend about what to do, and just listen to your child. Focus in on his/her needs and learn his/her cries.

74. You're More Than Just A Mom- Don't forget about your significant other, that's how baby is here anyway right? I had SUCH a hard time leaving my DD with friends/family etc. for a night out. I felt selfish and that I was doing something that "Mom's" weren't suppose to be doing. I feel for a brief moment in time, my spouse and I lost each other and just became "parents." Don't forget about your husband, boyfriend, fiance, etc. They are important too and even when you are so tired that you can't keep your eyes open. A moment away will help renew your spirits, energy, and realize that your not in this alone. Lord, I am preaching to the choir on that one!

75. If you're baby is happy, ignore the rest. Who cares if you don't use 100% Organic, or read reviews before purchasing baby gear, or bake perfect brownies. Your child thinks your perfect.

76. It takes a VILLAGE to raise a child- find people to support you. Whether it's your significant other, your Mom, a best friend, co-worker, neighbor what have you. We all need support.

77. Chores can wait- These days are fleeting. Regardless if the laundry gets done, there will be more tomorrow. There may not be another day of your little one crawling, tomorrow he/she may be walking or on to the next biggest thing. Be present for these moments.

78. Sneezing is normal after delivery- This is a common question I get at the hospital. Parents normally ask me if their little one has a cold. Most newborns sneeze in order to get the fluid up that accumulated during delivery. Sneezing and crying after delivery is great!

79. If baby is still crying after a feeding, diaper change, bath etc. Try to go back and burp him/her. Or, lay baby down on his/her back and rub the soles of the feet and move them in a bicycle motion to get out any trapped gas baby may have. Mylicon works wonders for gas. But, as always check with your pediatrician before giving any medications to your newborn.

80. Stock up on diapers while your pregnant. I did this with my daughter, we bought a pack every time we went to the store. Before baby is here you have more time to clip coupons, find deals, etc. I ended up picking up most packs for less than five dollars.

81. If baby will not stop crying, do not be afraid to put baby in a safe place and walk away for a minute. Gather your emotions and come back. If you need further help, step away and call. You can always call the hospital you delivered at for support as well.

82. Teach your baby to self soothe. Lay them down for a nap when they are awake but sleepy, give them the item that comforts them. We call them "loveys" in our house. My daughter never really took to one item. It's OK if it's different items that soothes them.

83. Learn how to pop open the travel stroller without the hubby! This one makes me laugh, every time we went out at first DH was always around. But, one day when my DD was around 3 months we were trying to run into the store to buy him a present. I must of looked so silly trying to pop the stroller open, I just thew it back in the car and went back home. :) BTW, I was NOT smiling.

84. THIS IS A GREAT TIP, plug the bath toys with a hot glue gun. The water will seep inside these toys and grow mold. My dog got ahold of one of my daughters rubber duckies and bit the face off, revealing a moldy ducky. Nasty!

85. If you have a little girl she may still have your hormones inside of her following delivery. Therefore, vaginal discharge is normal along with a swollen private area and or vaginal tag. These things will go away as your hormones leave her body.

86. If you are going to breast feed read up before delivery on pumping. It is not recommended to start pumping until your milk is established OR you have been told by an IBCLC (Lactation Consultant) that you need to pump (ex: if baby is not getting a nutritive latch). Pumping too soon can cause supply and demand issues and can cause over production. Ask your Lactation consultant for information regarding pumping and going back to work. They will have ALOT of useful information for you.

87. A lot of insurance companies are covering breast pumps. However, each insurance carrier is different and this is a newer thing that insurance companies are offering. Check with them to determine if a pump is available free of charge to you.

88. Invest in a GREAT thermometer. My husband and I are both RN's, you would of thought we would of invested in one with our daughter early on. However, we always thought of other things to spend money on. I recently invested in a Brauhn ear thermometer and we love it. It's fast, my daughter doesn't mind it and it's accurate. There are plenty of great ones out there, just look around. Also, if you have a flex spending account, it may be covered under that.

89. If you ever have trouble with leaking diapers they make overnight diapers. We use to have issues with my daughter leaking through her diapers at night. It was like she either didn't pee at all or she flooded her diaper. It didn't matter what she drank before bed. The overnight diapers saved our sheets and minds!

90. Buy cute sheets and breathable bumpers! Save the money on a crib bumper. We bought a gorgeous crib bumper for my daughter. Her great grandmother assembled it so now we can't get rid of it. It just sits in a box in the garage taking up space. Buy cute sheets and a inexpensive breathable bumper, you can see baby at a glance, baby can breathe through the bumper, its lightweight, and must importantly MACHINE washable. Remember how it goes on and off because it is a little frustrating. I'm not much for figuring stuff out so either ask your DH or watch Youtube.

91. If you are bottle feeding, put the amount of water needed in the bottle and take the formula with you and add it to it. Don't worry about having to keep the bottles at the right temperature.

92. Monthly pictures are a must. Etsy has cute little stick on's to add to plain onesies to take as baby grows. Take a picture every month and display them at your newborn's first birthday. You will LOVE looking back at these and will be amazed at how fast they grow.

93. Don't beat yourself up if breast feeding is not for you. For example, the other day at work I was helping a BTDT Mom who successfully fed her two year old girl when she was a newborn. However, she was 3 days PP and was having difficulty breast feeding her almost 11 pound baby. She had issues with depression and just didn't feel up to breast feeding. Your baby can sense your feelings and emotions. I am strongly for breast feeding and I feel with dedication and commitment almost every Mom can do it. However, if it's taking too much out of you and too much to stick with it, you are NOT a bad Mom if you end up giving formula.

94. If you can't afford it, it can wait! Newborns do not need much the first couple of months. If you can afford a crib, don't worry about it. Diaper genie? Use a trash can. Activity gyms/ mats, blankets work great along with a few toys. Baby's for the most part are minimalist. WE are the ones that believe baby's need more then they really do. High chair? No worries, baby won't be feeding for at least 6 months and bumpos are great alternatives.

95. Sleep sacks, sleep sacks, sleep sacks! My daughter didn't care to be swaddled (even as a toddler she hates to be confined, imagine that :)) But, sleep sacks worked great, they were easy to access her if I needed to with just a zipper, she was warm, and they are so cute and comfortable!

96. Don't compare your baby! It's human nature to wonder how a  baby close to your newborns age is comparing. Don't do this, every baby is an individual. If your baby is doing exactly what the other baby is doing, it doesn't mean that your baby is behind. In fact, you may notice the very next day your baby begins to do what you were just talking about.

97. Read to your baby early on!

98. Establish a bed time routine. SAME.THING.EVERY.NIGHT. my daughter is two and we still do the exact same routine (bath, brush teeth, pjs, we read a book, sing the itsy bitsy spider, say prayers, hugs, kisses, knuckles, lights off, and we blow kisses). Baby's like routines, they know what to expect and will expect you to do it. Start your routine at least 30 minutes to an hour before bedtime. A lot of times this is when your baby is the most calmest so enjoy the time with them. Plus, the bath will help relax them. If they do not need a bath, rub them down with bed time lotion and sing or talk to them calmly. Turn down the lights and only have a lamp or dim lighting. This will help baby establish bedtime from daytime.

99. Record your baby- pictures are wonderful but remembering that adorable coo and that precious sweet innocent voice is hard to remember by a photograph.

100. Always remember- You are blessed beyond measure and there is not a better position or role on this earth then being a Mother.


DH- Dear Husband
DD- Dear Daughter
LO- Little One
BTDT- Been there done that


Do you have any tips of your own? Feel free to comment with them and I will add them to my list. I am so blessed to have such a wonderful group of contributing Mom's!

Safe Medications During Pregnancy

Being pregnant before, I often found myself wondering what medications would be safe to take during pregnancy and was so tired of googling every time I had diarrhea,cold, constipation, etc. After searching several times and being a nurse myself. I wanted to "solve" this problem once in for all and came across this useful information on my OB's website. I thought I would share this list with all of you.



USE OF MEDICATIONS DURING PREGNANCY
There is no medication considered to be 100% safe for long-term use in pregnancy. Each medication carries risks and benefits. Therefore, it is recommended that you:
1. Limit the use of medication unless you are severely impaired or the medication is recommended by your doctor.
2. Minimize the number of days or doses taken.
THESE MEDICATIONS ARE GENERALLY SAFE
CHOICES FOR:
ALLERGIES
Claritin or Claritin-D, Allegra or Allegra-D, Zyrtec or Zyrtec-D, Flonase, Benadryl.
COLD/FEVER
Tylenol or Extra Strength Tylenol, Sudafed, Tylenol Sinus. Increase your fluids and rest. Report a fever over 101.0.
COUGH
Robitussin DM, and/or cough drops.
CONSTIPATION
Metamucil, Surfak, Colace, Fibercon. Increase fiber and fluids in your diet.
DIARRHEA
Kaopectate, Imodium AD.
HEADACHE
Tylenol, Extra Strength Tylenol, Acetaminophen. Report any headache not relieved by Tylenol.
HEARTBURN / INDIGESTION
Maalox, Mylanta, Tums, Pepcid.
HEMORRHOIDS
Anusol cream or suppositories, Preparation H, Tucks, Witch Hazel
HERPES
Dom Burrows soaks, Zovirax cream, Valtrex after the first trimester.
GAS
Mylicon, Mylanta.
NAUSEA
Vitamin B6 (200 mg) 3 times a day, ginger in any form, Unisom (will make you sleepy).
SORE THROAT
Cepacol lozenges, warm salt water for gargling, chloroseptic throat spray, Tylenol for pain.
SKIN IRRITATION/ACNE
Calamine lotion, any topical steroid including hydrocortisone, Neosporin Ointment, any benzoyl peroxide product.
DO NOT TAKE UNLESS PRESCRIBED BY YOUR DOCTOR
• Aspirin
• Ibuprofen Products (i.e, Motrin, Advil, Aleve)


http://www.completewomenscarecenter.com/faq.shtml


Like I said, this is a list I have found useful and have utilized time and time again during my previous pregnancy. Speak to your OBGYN if you have any issues or concerns.

Have a safe and happy pregnancy!


The Oh So Dreaded Post-Partum Experience





As those BIG bellies are growing I am sure you are starting to wonder about your post-partum experience. I'm going to "attempt" to make it not so dreadful. As some of you may know, I am a post-partum nurse by “trade.” However, when I had my daughter two years ago, I was not a nurse and therefore not well versed in the post-partum world. Having said that, when I did have my daughter there are several things I wish I had known and now wish to share with all of you.

First of all, everyone's labor is so incredibly and remarkably unique. Whether your "birth plan" went as planned or didn't bottom line is after delivery...your plum exhausted! Soon after your precious bundle of joy arrives to this world, the nursery nurse will come and take your newborn to the nursery or the NICU dependent upon the case.

If your delivery is a "healthy" delivery and you are planning to breast-feed your newborn I would recommend that you breast-feed immediately following delivery if able (this provides skin to skin contact with you and your newborn allowing for bonding to take place). Keep in mind at this time, you will more then likely have a WHIRL-WIND of emotions occurring from excitement, to confusion, and everything in between ;) Number one rule is there are NO rules. Be flexible with your "plans" and let things happen naturally.

**Side note: My husband and I were the only one’s in the room when my daughter was born so we waited to invite family into the room until we had allowed her to latch and feed for a few moments. I HIGHLY recommend this if at all possible. But, to each their own ;)

After your little one goes to the nursery you will either stay in your Labor and Delivery suite or be transferred to the Post-partum unit following delivery. You will have roughly 3-5 hours before the “transition” nurse brings your newborn back to your room. Your baby has to go through a "transition" phase in which he/she is becoming acclimated to the environment and has to be placed on a warmer for an extended period of time and will also undergo tests and procedures. Here is a list of what baby will receive in the nursery:

1)    Weight/Length- The first time will be done in the L&D room and then baby will be weighed everyday he/she is in the hospital to ensure baby is not losing too much weight.
2)    Erythromycin Eye drops- used to prevent your baby from receiving an infection typically caused by Chlamydia or Gonorrhea. The eye drops make it harder for the newborn to see during his/her alert phase and can be delayed if wished. However, I would recommend having it done while baby is “transitioning” and by the time he/she is off the warmer most of it will be gone.
3)    Vitamin K- Injection given to your baby to prevent excessive bleeding. Newborns are not born with clotting factors and are at increased risk of bleeding. The vitamin K injection gives the newborn the clotting factors they need until they can make them on their own.
4)    PKU- Is a state screening typically done at least 24 hours after delivery, which tests, for many genetic disorders and how your baby is able to process human milk and or formula. This screening will be done twice one at the hospital and once in the pediatrician’s office. If you do not hear back from the state there is no need to worry, you will only hear back if they find something wrong.
5)    Hep B Vaccine- Can either be done in the hospital or at your child’s two month check-up. In many states this is a mandatory vaccine for public school children. Talk to your practitioner if you having any questions or concerns about receiving this vaccination.
6)    APGAR- is a common term you may hear tossed around moments after your child is delivered. This is a score nurses and doctors use to rate your newborns well being post delivery. APGAR stands for activity, pulse, grimace, appearance, and respiration) each category is given a score and further care for your child is decided upon. If the score is low your child may need further life sustaining measures if the score is high your newborn most likely will be able to transition into regular nursery dependent upon gestational age.
7)    Circumcision- If you are having a boy, the question of having a circumcision or not will come up. There are several different techniques that can be utilized and not all practiconers practice each technique- so do your research before hand or you may just want to postpone it until your practiconer is available.

Whew. Can you believe you have to make ALL of those decisions PLUS have a ton of raging raw emotions spilling out everywhere? Speaking about these topics before hand with your significant other is important and vital to a smooth recovery. I have seen couples plenty of times argue over these topics thinking that they would not be an issue. Educate yourselves on these topics and make sure you and your spouse are able to come to a decision and or compromise.

OK, so now that the newborn stuff is all out of the way now we get to talk about YOU and The Postpartum Experience!


Your nurse will either bring you over by wheelchair or stretcher to the unit depending on the type of delivery that you had. Let’s talk about all things VAG first:

-If you have a episiotomy you will be having some vicious vag pain. 

-Make sure your nurse if able, gives you Americane spray (which is a numbing medication for your hoo-hah) and EpiFoam if needed which is a topical steroid that will significantly reduce the inflammation. Oh, and that “squirt” bottle is awesome. Fill it up with warm water and you will be in hoo-hah heaven!
-ICE, ICE, ICE if you’re swollen, will be your best friend. At my facility, we cut open pads and poor ice into them for our Momma’s. Your facility may have a fancier system. Whatever. Just get one.

-You will NEVER see so much blood in your life.

-Those mesh panties that they provide to use post delivery, use them. I took my own because I refused to use those and I regretted it. Pull those ugly Victoria secret panties up over that post-partum belly and you will feel SO.MUCH.BETTER. Even the hottest Mom’s I know thank me.

-Bring shower flip-flops that you don’t mind getting dirty in the bathroom. I can’t tell you how many super cute fuzzy slippers turned not so cute after a SPLAT of blood.

-Save the Boppy pillow for home use and ask for plenty of pillows for breastfeeding support. The Bobby (unless your super skinny) is very difficult to bring close to your belly to breastfeed plus I have seen them fall several times on the GROSS floor. Hospital floor=not newborn friendly.

-Don’t bother bringing your own pads, use the hospitals. They are HUGE and will be your best friend.
-Nipple cream, nipple cream, nipple cream if your breastfeeding. Start using this even before baby latches for the first time. Even if you are not sore, this will save your nipples!

-Ditch the visitors if you are able. Or ask the nurse to be the “enemy” for you. We DON’T mind. You need your rest and it’s hard to breastfeed, change your pad, have blood flying everywhere if you have family in the room. Remember your little one isn’t going anywhere. I know there excited, but you need your rest too!

-IBUPROFEN – helps significantly with after birth cramping typically noticed in Mom’s after multiple pregnancies but new Mom’s can feel them too! Your nurse will come by and offer it too you. If you don’t need it great, but if your feeling those pains, take it!

-Breast pumping is not recommended during the hospital stay if newborn is able to breastfeed and will only cause an overproduction in milk days down the road.

-Ask the nurse to see a lactation consultant if available (typically they come one day 2 since your so exhausted the first day)


C-Section Moms:

-Football hold- Great for you guys since you can’t hold baby across your incision. Have a staff member assist you.
- ABDOMINAL BINDER or spanks when able, for those Mom’s who want the extra support these are great!
-Walk, walk, walk as soon as you can after delivery. A lot of your pain after a c-section is gas related. It is hard to expel gas while resting in bed. You will hurt like hell to get out of bed, but once your out keep moving!!
-The narcotic they put you on which is typically a PCA pump (patient controlled) can and might make you say things you wouldn’t normally say. Completely normal and will wear off.
-You will have a catheter, abdominal dressing, PCA pump after your c-section and will probably not be removed until the next morning.
-WASH, WASH, WASH your incision while in the shower after the bandage is removed.
-Watch the incision site, if you notice inflammation, redness, or a fever call your MD ASAP. The sites can get infected really really quickly so be careful!
-Cough frequently in bed to prevent secretions from building up in your lungs while not moving

So here is what I would recommend to bring and I will probably think of a few more things later so excuse me if I forgot a thing or two!

What to bring:
1)    Hairties
2)    A pretty robe!
3)    Flip-flops that can easily be cleaned or tossed. Ahem.
4)    Toiletries
5)    Newborn’s memory book- the hospital will typically do you newborns prints for you if you ask them.
6)    Lanolin Cream/ Medela Cream for nipples
7)    Camera/Laptop/Ipad
8)    Cell phone charger
9)    Nursing Tanks
10)  Nursing bras/pads
11)  Itzbeen- I’ve seen several Mom’s bring this to the hospital to keep track of feedings. It helped if they forget to write a feed down.
12)  Car-seat

*I didn’t include Dad’s items or Baby bag in this list

Feel free to comment below any suggestions or useful information. This is my experience, if you know of something that helped you please share it. If you have any baby topics you would like to me to blog about include them in your comments below.

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